Written by SexWithEmily.com

When we search for images of sex, nine times out of ten, what comes up? Able bodied, skinny, toned, white or light skinned people. In so much of pornography and the visual sex we consume, it’s about what insane positions can people get into while keeping the friction going.

Most times, plus size bodies are left entirely out of the conversation when talking about sex, and that is discouraging, but exclusionary, and directly shaming of people that are less than the ‘media ideal’.

Here are some plus size sex positions that can help you bring out the inner porn star in the bedroom.

IF ONE PARTNER IS PLUS SIZE

As we go through these positions, we’ll be talking mostly about partnered, penetrative sex. When one partner is larger than the other, the angle of penetration is key to choosing a great plus size sex position. By understanding where and how you’re positioned, you’ll be able to achieve deep, satisfying penetration.

Everyone Loves Doggy
The easiest and simplest way to get your partner off is doggy style. Doggy style works particularly well for bodies that carry more weight in the abdomen area. With the plus size partner on all fours, no one’s tummy will get in the way of penetration from behind. However, for bodies with a little more junk in the booty trunk, this might be a touch more difficult. You can also modify the doggy-style position by going from your knees into a starfish position. By sprawling out flat on the stomach, it opens access to penetration from behind. This also gives you real estate to kiss their back and neck, pull their hair, and fondle them while you go at it.

Giddy Up
This position is commonly referred to as “Cowgirl”, but that’s gender-exclusionary so let’s call it the “Giddy Up!” With the plus size partner mounting the other partner facing them, deep penetration is a cinch. Being on top, you also control the speed and intensity at which you are banging.

Plus size people, don’t be afraid of ‘crushing’ your partner. Mattresses have give, and chances are, your partner wants your hot body all over them. Plus, weight on bodies produce release of serotonin and a reduction of cortisol (a stress hormone) so by laying it on your partner, you’re actually relieving, releasing, and relaxing them.

Butterfly
For this position, spread your wings and prepare to fly! The plus size partner lays on their back at the edge of the bed/counter/table/couch, and drapes their legs on their partner’s shoulders. This allows for easy access for not only penetration, but maximum stimulation of the g-spot, p-spot, and any other spot you can find in there. This butterfly position will definitely get your partner to hit those Mariah Carey notes.

IF TWO PARTNERS ARE PLUS SIZE

Love On Top
A wise woman said ‘put your thang down, flip it and reverse it.’ This same ingenious phrasing could be used to describe two plus size lovers getting it on. A reverse cowgirl where the person on top leans forward, not only gives a better angle to penetrate, from behind, but also allows for the extra belly cushion to be out of the way of each other. With the penetrator on their back, this actually relieves mid-section weight, further revealing the penis/strap-on/finger and allowing for deeper penetration.

A Leg Up On The Competition
Similar to the butterfly, this is a modification called the “leg glider” that allows for deep penetration. One partner lies on their back, while one of their legs gets lifted onto the shoulder of their partner. Only lifting one leg allows space for the negotiation of bodies to facilitate penetration. If the partner standing and penetrating leans back slightly while thrusting, more of their penis/strap-on can be revealed to achieve the knocking of walls.

BIG TIPS

Fluffers
Pillows are your friend. Whether you need them underneath your hips while on your stomach, or underneath your lower back, try different textures and fillers. A memory foam pillow will give you strong support, whereas a down pillow may offer more minimal, but flexible support.

The Edge Of Glory
Speaking of support, a great tip for penetration is to lean over a piece of furniture, a counter, or a bed. If you’re heavier, sometimes it may be difficult to hold your weight up. By being braced against something, it’s a great way to fully enjoy the rhythm without holding up the weight.

Pee Shy
There is an increased chance for urinary incontinence for plus size people after sex. Doing Kegel exercises will not only help combat the incontinence but will result in a stronger pelvic floor and stronger orgasms. If you want to take your pelvic floor health up a notch, you can get a product like the Yarlap to do your Kegels for you! Either way, no matter your size, Kegels are good for you, so get to flexing!

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Body-shaming is a major problem in our society. Body-positivity and inclusivity among different people of every size is an important part of sexual equality. If you are a heavier person, take these tips and have the hot sex that you and everyone deserves!

 

Source: http://sexwithemily.com/sex-positions-for-plus-size-pleasure/

Written by SexWithEmily.com

Ah, Kissing. My favorite adult pastime and the bane of my middle school existence. Being a good kisser may seem simple, but in reality it’s a craft that you work on throughout your entire romantic and sexual life.

Today, in honor of National Kissing Day, we’re giving you a handy little guide for making sure your smooches are the best in the land, without any pillow practice.

It’s time to pucker up and put your money where your mouth is!

Here’s how to land the perfect peck:

FIRST STEPS

Step One: Before You Get Started

Your mouth is your chosen weapon in this situation, so make sure that weapon is ready for action! This may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s an essential step to successful kissing. Moisturize your lips (chapstick, anyone?) bring some mints on that date, and please brush your teeth.

Pro-tip: for those last minute, post-meal moments, a travel-size bottle of mouthwash can be a life saver. There’s nothing like a first kiss with a fuzzy toothed, garlic breathed hottie to really kill the mood.

Step Two: Listen Listen Listen

The biggest trick to being a good kisser? Knowing that a “good kiss” means something different to everyone! Kissing is such an intimate and it’s not once size fits all. Different people like different smooches, so more often than not, being a good kisser is about working with what your kissing partner likes and doesn’t like.

Just because your ex liked big sloppy make-outs, or a nice dry peck, doesn’t mean either of those will drive your new beau crazy. Kissing is extremely subjective, so being a “good kisser” is really about being an actively listening kisser. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues and come into every new make-out sesh with the attitude of an explorer. Let their mouth lead the way.

Step Three: Start Slow

Because kissing is so personalized, and our preferences can be so different, it’s important to start small! I don’t want to scare you, but kissing is the gateway to the land of sexual experiences, and a bad kiss can seal off that gateway for good!

More often than not, a kiss is the first sexual or romantic experience with a new partner, so it’s important to start slow with a kiss on the lips (no tongue!) and build from there. If you’re worried about getting a kiss started, read your beau’s body language. Are they leaning in? IS their mouth agape? Can you sense their excitement? Make eye contact, lean in, and if you’re not sure, ask if you can kiss them. Nothing is sexier than consent!

Step Four: Add Tongue

Okay, now that you’ve had a moment to establish a rhythm to your kissing, you can start to introduce a little tongue. French kissing is an art form and everyone likes their french kiss prepared in a different way, so take some time to test the waters before you start playing an intense game of tonsil hockey. Most people don’t like the sensation of saliva dripping down their chin.

Start by gently touching your tongue to your partners, and build together from there. Mirror the movements of your kissing partner, and develop a rhythm of opening your mouth, introducing your tongue gently, and closing your mouth. The tongue is actually a VERY strong muscle, so be sure to use it delicately, and read your partner’s body language (including their own use of tongue) to see if you can increase the Frenchiness of the kiss.

NEXT LEVEL KISSING

Step Five: Get Handsy

These next couple steps don’t happen every time you kiss. They apply if you’ve been going at it for a while and you’re moving towards more sexual behavior. Don’t escalate too quickly, but as you get into the groove of kissing, it’s a good idea to hold and caress the person you’re attached to at the mouth!

Start with holding their head to intensify the passion and depth of the kiss. Touch the small of their back, caress their arms and elbows, and generally let them know that you like touching them while also respecting how quickly or slowly things are moving between you two. Don’t just automatically go for the boob grab, keep it cool. But also…keep it hot. And of course, keep your hands clean.

Step Six: Go Off the Map!

You’ve got the kissing going, got the tongue involved, and your hands are in the mix. It sounds like you might be ready for a full on make-out sesh! Explore your partner’s body by very softly kissing other nearby erogenous zones, using the mouth as a starting off point. As a rule, we don’t give hickeys, unless you’re in middle school, or someone specifically asked for it!

Kiss their ears, cheeks, and neck, making sure to check in along the way. Think of each little kiss like a step you take towards a new area. Start small, with little dry kisses, and check in with your beau’s body language. Ask yourself: does it seem like my partner likes this? Are they leaning into my kisses? Or do they seem a little disconnected from my earlobe smooches? Some people love them, and some people hate them! Adjust based on their reaction. When in doubt a little “do you like that?” is NEVER a bad idea.

 

Source: http://sexwithemily.com/how-to-be-a-good-kisser/

Written by LoveAndSexAnswers.com

A handjob can actually be a sexy thing to give to your partner. Here are some fun sex positions to try when you want to give your partner some manual love.

It’s important to find a comfortable place for both you and your partner before embarking on a handjob. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable.

Facing Each Other

He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his penis will be a huge turn on for him.

Traditional Kneeling

Kneel in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).

The “Movie Theater” Handjob

Sit side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be one of his fantasies coming true.

Relaxation To The Max

Sit in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.

Backwards Handjob

Sit beside your partner but lean over in a way that you are facing his feet

Doggy Style

You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.

On Your Knees

Kneel while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blowjob but it can be used solely for a handjob.

Lying Down

Lie beside your partner. If you undress, he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.

Road Job

Try this while driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater. Splurge for a limo with a privacy screen and make another fantasy come true.

Fun In The Tub

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like a mermaid.

Extra Hands

Stand with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants — never let him turn around — but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you.

Women love this position because it can also be used with the surprise “sneak into the shower and give him a handjob when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. A safer alternative is silicone lube.

This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.

How To Tell If He’s Enjoying It

As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of giving a handjob (not just the positioning).

Just because he is not having an orgasm in a certain handjob position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.

 

Source: https://loveandsexanswers.com/handjob-sex-positions/