11 Common Fetishes

A swingers club can be a great place to explore SOME fetishes! We came across this article by Allure that lists 11 common fetishes ranging from bondage to anal sex. Try something new (with consent!) this weekend at Trapeze Club!

1. Impact Play

Impact play means spanking, flogging, paddling, and other forms of consensual striking. Spanking is often an easy and safe BDSM entry point that leads to exploring more, such as purchasing a crop to use with a partner. Impact play can range from a light slap on the bum to a crack of the whip.

As with any kink or fetish, it’s important to negotiate boundaries beforehand. “Safety and comfort are the most important aspects of kink,” Renye says. Do your homework before practicing impact play. Discuss the level of intensity you enjoy (or your partner enjoys), choose a safe word to shut down the action on a dime if need be, and learn what parts of the body are safe to impact. Stick with the meaty areas, like the ass and thighs, and avoid less protected areas where organs live, like the lower back. For both financial savings and safety, it’s a good idea to start out simply using your hand before investing in bigger and badder impact play toys, for example a whip or paddle.

2. Role-Playing

You don’t have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up. Role-playing means acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner(s), either once or as part of an ongoing fantasy, Renye says. While it can be a fetish or kink within itself, it’s also a healthy way to act out other fantasies. For instance, if you have a medical fantasy, and are aroused by doctors, you probably don’t actually want your doctor to get sexy with you because that would be creepy and abusive. The beauty of role-playing is that you can have your partner dress up as a doctor and indulge your fantasy consensually in your own home.

Role-playing scenarios range from classic schoolgirl-and-professor scenes to the more taboo, such as daddy dom and little girl. “There’s a huge stigma on daddy and brat/princess play, but I love it. I can’t have sex without calling someone daddy,” Stephanie says. Such role-playing can involve both age play, in which one partner pretends or both partners pretend to be an age other than their own, and incest fantasies. It’s not unusual for a fetish to overlap into one or more categories.

3. Foot Fetish

A foot fetish involves a desire to worship feet through acts such as massage, kissing, and smelling. As professional dominatrix Goddess Aviva told Allure, it’s an extremely common fetish. If your partner shares that they have a foot fetish, it may be initially jarring, but it’s an opportunity for you to discuss a potentially exciting new part of your sex life together. (And, if you’re into it, just think of all the foot massages headed your way!)

4. Anal Sex

You don’t need to have an anal fetish to engage in anal sex, but plenty of people do specifically get off on butt stuff. Anal play can range from adding a finger in the ass during penetrative vaginal sex to using butt plugs to having anal sex with a penis or a dildo. In a recent study, 37 percent of women and 43 percent of men said they had engaged in anal sex (in which women received and men gave).

Stephanie says that she’s observed anal play become more socially acceptable since she began exploring kink in college, and she credits mainstream media for helping to destigmatize the act (think of the infamous rimming scene in Girls, where Marnie gets her ass eaten, or the epic Broad City episode where Jeremy asks Ilana to peg him). Since the butthole is not self-lubricating and harbors bacteria that can lead to infection when transferred to the vagina, it’s important to stock up on lube and read up on ass etiquette before engaging in anal play. That includes safer sex precautions such as condom use.

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5. Lingerie

Renye says that one of the most common fetishes centers on something that may be sitting inside your dresser right now: lingerie. “[This] may show up in sexual play between and among individuals who may not even consider themselves kinky or to have a fetish (or two or three),” she says. Again, while many people get aroused by sexy underwear, lingerie becomes a fetish when someone needs it to be present in a sexual scenario in order to fully engage or get off. A common lingerie fetish involves stockings, a fetish that can overlap with a love of feet. Lingerie is an example of the lesser-used definition of a fetish: an attraction to an object. 

6. Group Sex

Group sex is getting it on with more than one person. If you’ve ever swiped on Tinder, you’re likely aware that many couples are searching for a third, although group sex can mean more than just a threesome. An orgy is when a group of people of all genders have sex, while a gangbang typically refers to one person having sex with more than two members of another gender (while the term has past violent connotations, it’s used in the kink community to refer to consensual scenarios). The most talked-about type of gangbang is a woman being penetrated by multiple penises. However, men can be gangbanged by multiple women, while with strap-ons, anyone can play out a penetrative gangbang. If you have a group sex fetish or kink but realistically only want to have sex with one other person, try using porn, dirty talk, or role-playing with the use of sex toys to explore within your current relationship.

7. Sensation Play

Sensation play can refer to a huge range of activities based on the receiving or withholding of different stimuli. For instance, one partner may blindfold the other to deprive them of their sense of sight, a form of sensory deprivation, or they may drag an ice cube along their skin, a form of sensation play known as temperature play. When it comes to giving sensation, think of everything from tickling a partner with your hands or a feather to biting them. Impact play is sometimes placed under the category of sensation play.

8. Orgasm Control

Orgasm control is part of BDSM, as it involves an element of dominance and submission. Edging, in which the submissive partner is brought to the brink of climax and then forced to stop — often done repeatedly — is an example of orgasm control. The idea here is that for as long as you like, you let your partner take the reins and determine when and how you come. As with all of the activities here, anyone can engage in orgasm control regardless of their genitalia.

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9. Bondage

Bondage is when one partner restrains the other. It’s usually a form of dominance and submission and falls under the BDSM umbrella. You can bind your partner using objects you already have around, such as a belt, or purchase specialty kink items like handcuffs. To engage in restraint play safely, establish boundaries and a safe word, emphasize consent and communication at every step, and start slow. (And take care not to cut off anyone’s circulation!)

10. Psychological Play

While physical actions, such as spanking, are often the most discussed kinks and fetishes, some of the most intense sexual play takes place in the mind. Renye refers to psychological power play as “mind control,” and it’s a type of BDSM. Psychological play involves implementing a sexual power exchange: Humiliation play, for example, might involve a submissive partner getting off on being called names. Consensual threats are an example of psychological play; one example is a domme warning a male submissive with a foot fetish that he’ll have to lick her feet if he doesn’t fall in line and do exactly as she says.

11. Voyeurism

study on fetishes published in the Journal of Sex Research found voyeurism — or obtaining sexual pleasure from watching others who are naked or having sex — to be one of the most common fetishes. Of course, as with every other fetish, engage in voyeurism consensually, for example at a sex party where a couple has given you permission to watch; watching someone without their permission is never acceptable. The flip side of voyeurism is exhibitionism, which means achieving sexual pleasure by allowing others to watch you. (A sex party is a great setting in which to do this, too.)


Happy Swinging!



Thomas, Sophie Saint. “11 Sexual Fetishes That Are Way More Common Than You’d Think.” Allure, Allure, 1 Nov. 2017, www.allure.com/story/common-sexual-fetishes-kinks.

6 Tips for Single Males Going to a Swingers Club

1. Don’t be creepy.

You might chuckle at this, but it’s necessary to say. Don’t follow a couple around or make sexual comments to ladies walking past you. This can be translated as “creepy” even at a swingers club.

2. Ask first!

Just because you’re at a swingers club doesn’t mean that everyone is going to want to have sex with you. The number one thing to remember at any swingers club is that communication is important! You should always ask before touching or watching a couple play.

3. Don’t lead with sex.

If you approach a couple just to show off your “junk” or lead with sexual suggestions, your success rate will be low. Couples want to have a conversation first. Start with some small talk. “Is this your first time here?” “I’ve never done this before. I’m a little nervous.” “How long have you been in the lifestyle?” Some honest communication will go a long way. Take a look at some tips on picking up another couple.

4. Include both of them.

Though you may only have interest in the woman, be sure to include both of them in the conversation. Don’t wait until her husband goes to the bathroom to make your approach. You want to be respectful of them as a pair. If he is feeling ignored by you, the chances are that you aren’t going to get to play with either of them.

5. Dress to impress.

When you attend an upscale swingers club as a single male, you need to go all out! Pull out that tailored suit and your nice shoes. Be the guy they can’t wait to approach. Don’t forget to get a haircut, brush your teeth, and shower! Would you want to play with you? Most upscale swingers clubs have a dress code that you should abide by.

6. Do your research.

Before attending any swingers club for the first time, be sure to check out their website. You should review the club’s swinging guidelines such as their rules, expected etiquette, and dress code. You should also review the nightly fees and find out whether or not single males are welcome on the night you plan to attend. You may also want to check out what events are coming up so that you can participate in the theme for the night.

Good luck and happy swinging!

7 Tips on How to Initiate Sex With Another Couple

So you and your partner have had “the talk” and have decided to start swinging. Congrats! Now it’s time to get your feet wet. Here are some tips on how to initiate sex with another couple.


By visiting a local swingers club, you’ll be in the company of other adventurous couples and singles. Putting yourselves in a sex positive environment with like-minded people will make you feel much more comfortable about speaking to other couples. If you’re in the Atlanta or Fort Lauderdale areas, be sure to head over to Trapeze Club.


Sounds basic enough, right? Many people struggle with this simple step. Introducing yourselves is not only the perfect opportunity to give off a positive first impression, but you will also come across as confident and sexy.


Courtesy goes a very long way in the swinging lifestyle community. Never assume it’s okay to touch someone without permission. If you want to make a good impression, ask if it’s okay to sit next them. “Is someone sitting here? Do you mind if we join you?” Familiarize yourselves with the Trapeze Club Swinging Guidelines to avoid pitfalls.


Start by asking if this is their first time at the club, where they’re from, or how they like the city. Be sure not to talk about sex right away. The idea is to get a feel for the couple and see if the four of you can manage to engage in a natural flowing conversation.


If you and your partner like to dance, invite another couple to join you out on the dance floor. Dancing together can create sexual chemistry, not to mention its’ the perfect opportunity to break the touch barrier in an appropriate way.


Most swingers clubs have BYOB bars. Why not offer another couple a drink from your bottle? It goes without saying that enjoying a drink or two together can really help to loosen things up and get the juices flowing. This would be a good time to chat about the lifestyle. Ask them how long they’ve been in the swinging lifestyle and what clubs they enjoy visiting.


If everything seems to be going well up to this point and you feel good chemistry brewing between the four of you, it’s time to invite them to the playrooms. Remember that it’s okay to keep things light. For instance, you could say, “We are heading to the playrooms – you’re welcome to join us.” Asking in this way let’s the other couple know you’re interested in playing while also avoiding applying too much pressure.