The Best Masturbation Techniques to Try Tonight

Written by SexWithEmily.com

Not all resolutions revolve around losing weight or reaching a career goal. January can bring about fresh starts in various areas of your life. And this new year, why not take the opportunity to explore new ways to pleasure yourself with some innovative (and highly pleasurable) masturbation techniques?

Whether you’ve been masturbating for years, or are new to the game of physical self-love, there’s always room for improvement. Here are some of our favorite game-changers to celebrate a brand new year of pleasure.

Change positions.

The go-to masturbatory position is to lay on your back in bed. It’s convenient, easy, and comfortable. But when it comes to coming on command, angles are everything. Trying different positions just like you would during partnered sex, leads to different experiences and orgasms.

Try sitting up on the edge of your bed, throw your legs in the air, or even get on your hands and knees. Something as simple as flipping over onto your stomach can change your masturbatory experience in ways you never would have expected. Plus it makes you work a little harder for that orgasm at the end of the tunnel.

Incorporate your butt.

The obvious stars of any masturbation session are your genitals. But this year, why not work on stimulating other nearby erogenous zones while you’re at it? The anus is packed with nerve-endings, and if you let them, they can take your solo-love experience to a deeper level.

While touching yourself, let your fingers wander a touch more Southward than usual. Test the waters and tease your butthole a bit at first. If you’re feeling adventurous, graduate to single finger penetration. If you’ve got a prostate, anal penetration can stimulate the “P-spot” and culminate in an orgasm for the ages.

Masturbate after a workout or meditating.

Masturbation isn’t just a physical activity—it’s a mindset. And so one of our favorite masturbation techniques is actually the work you do before you masturbate.

If you’re in a bad, lazy, or sullen mood, your orgasm will almost certainly reflect that. Exercising floods the body with endorphins, chemicals that leave you with a positive and euphoric feeling. If you’re more into the mental workout, try 5 to 20 minutes of meditation to help soften the mind and rid the body of any lingering anxieties. Capitalize on that natural high or clear headspace and ride it straight through to your climax.

Masturbate in the mirror.

Even though masturbation mostly happens alone, that doesn’t mean it isn’t an act of intimacy. Self-pleasure is all about knowing your body and being intimate with yourself. Level up the self-connection factor by positioning yourself in front of a mirror before you do the deed. While trying this masturbation technique, watch the way your face and body react when you touch yourself in different ways. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but remember to look at yourself lovingly and with admiration. This masturbation technique is great for boosting self-confidence and you might even learn a thing or two about how you like to be pleasured.

Talk to yourself.

Keeping in the theme of self-connection, try engaging in some dirty talk with yourself while you masturbate. Visualizing and vocalizing your pleasure can accentuate your sensual feelings and reactions. If something feels good when you practice this masturbation technique, say it out loud! If you’re into it, go ahead call yourself a sexy name. Using your voice is a great way to liven up your solo sex life.

Use the other parts of your hand.

When we’re not using toys to get the job done, the tips of our fingers usually do the heavy lifting when it comes to self-induced orgasms. But there is so much real estate on your hand that doesn’t have to sit idly by during masturbation. Using the smooth surface of the back of your hand on the shaft of your penis or a gentle knuckle above the clitoris is an easy way to mix things up. And of course, you can always use your non-dominant hand for a bit of a challenge.

Don’t look.

Sensory deprivation is a fun way to bring a hint of mystery into the bedroom whether you’re having sex with or without a partner. You’d be surprised how much a blindfold can change the way you feel things, even if you’re the one doing all the touching during self-pleasure. This masturbation technique is great for slow, sensual sessions. With a blindfold on, trace your hands over your nipples, down your sides, and across the insides of your thighs. It also helps to eliminate possible distractions and focus your concentration on your sense of touch.

As you embark on this new year, remember not to put self-love on the backburner. Self-improvement isn’t about punishing or changing yourself. It’s about enhancing your experiences, and masturbation is no exception.

 

Source: https://sexwithemily.com/masturbation-techniques-2021/

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5 Types of Arousal

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Let’s talk about a sexy – but often misunderstood – aspect of the sexual experience: arousal.

Why misunderstood? Because we have a tendency to conflate “arousal” with “desire.” The two are related, but there’s a crucial difference: desire is a psychological wanting, but arousal is a bodily event.  And to desire anything – be it a person or a piece of chocolate cake – there is always a beat between the wanting, and the satisfaction.

In fact, what gives desire its heat is a little bit of mystery, where we hope and wonder if it’ll actually happen… the “it” being anything, like sex with someone we’re attracted to. Or, eating that chocolate cake.

But where desire is about motivation, arousal is about preparation. Desire moves you to act, while arousal is your body getting you ready for whatever appealing thing is about to happen. When you’re sexually aroused, you might feel:

  • Your breath quickening
  • Your heart speeding up
  • Your blood flowing to various erogenous zones, and those zones becoming more sensitive

Now, why is this all helpful for sex? Because once you know your arousal style, you can work with it more effectively to get in the mood for sex. You can know with more clarity, “OH, this kind of situation turns me on,” and you can then apply that knowledge to your future sexual encounters.

In truth, the science of sexual arousal is ever-evolving. But let’s take a look at five sexual arousal styles that are pretty common, to help you determine which one you (and/or your partner) are. I’ve also included quick hacks under each, to help you take each arousal style and make it an IRL sexy situation.

1. Arousal Through Conversation

This is the person who loves talking, relating, laughing together, and creating an emotional connection as their lead-in to sex. It’s important for this person to feel safe, relaxed, and like there’s been sufficient time to catch up with each other before any touching occurs. But as the conversation progresses, it could be a moment of sustained eye contact, a moment of giggling together, a moment of relating…that starts to get their juices flowing.

To hack it…

  • Have a sit-down date, without a ton of outside distractions. Choose a place where you and your partner can sink in, catch up, and focus on each other.
  • Ask questions, lead with curiosity, and share thoughtful responses: all ways to help someone who’s more conversational feel more connected to you.
  • You can open up light, by simply asking: “tell me about your day?” Then you can progress to something more suggestive, such as: “I have a few ideas about what we can do after this. But I’d love to hear what you’re in the mood for.”

2. Arousal Through Touch

This is the person who wants to hug, brush your arm, hold hands, and make tons of skin contact as they get ready for sex. They are not physically stand-off-ish at all, and it’s the tactile connection between the two of you that causes their heart to pound.

To hack it…

  • Maybe this one sounds obvious – include touch, duh – but it’s the way that touch happens, that’s important here.
  • I recommend touch that creates a lil sexual tension: starting off with something more neutral or sweet, like hugs and/or a touch on the shoulder.
  • As you read your partner’s body language, you can offer more suggestive touch: a kiss on the neck, touching their thigh, etc.

3. Arousal Through Visuals

This is the person who gets turned on by what they see: and that could be you looking sexy, it could be their own reflection looking sexy, it could even be a vivid fantasy. This person might also not be a bad candidate for using sexy media for arousal, like ethical porn. Within reason of course, but if you get turned on by visuals…media could be an effective “arousal runway,” as my dear friend/fellow sex educator Ian Kerner puts it.

To hack it…

 

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