So you and your partner have had “the talk” and have decided to start swinging. Congrats! Now it’s time to get your feet wet. Here are some tips on how to initiate sex with another couple.
1. VISIT A LOCAL SWINGERS CLUB
By visiting a local swingers club, you’ll be in the company of other adventurous couples and singles. Putting yourselves in a sex positive environment with like-minded people will make you feel much more comfortable about speaking to other couples. If you’re in the Atlanta or Fort Lauderdale areas, be sure to head over to Trapeze Club.
2. INTRODUCE YOURSELVES
Sounds basic enough, right? Many people struggle with this simple step. Introducing yourselves is not only the perfect opportunity to give off a positive first impression, but you will also come across as confident and sexy.
3. BE COURTEOUS
Courtesy goes a very long way in the swinging lifestyle community. Never assume it’s okay to touch someone without permission. If you want to make a good impression, ask if it’s okay to sit next them. “Is someone sitting here? Do you mind if we join you?” Familiarize yourselves with the Trapeze Club Swinging Guidelines to avoid pitfalls.
4. START A CONVERSATION
Start by asking if this is their first time at the club, where they’re from, or how they like the city. Be sure not to talk about sex right away. The idea is to get a feel for the couple and see if the four of you can manage to engage in a natural flowing conversation.
5. HIT THE DANCE FLOOR
If you and your partner like to dance, invite another couple to join you out on the dance floor. Dancing together can create sexual chemistry, not to mention its’ the perfect opportunity to break the touch barrier in an appropriate way.
6. OFFER THEM A DRINK
Most swingers clubs have BYOB bars. Why not offer another couple a drink from your bottle? It goes without saying that enjoying a drink or two together can really help to loosen things up and get the juices flowing. This would be a good time to chat about the lifestyle. Ask them how long they’ve been in the swinging lifestyle and what clubs they enjoy visiting.
7. ASK TO PLAY
If everything seems to be going well up to this point and you feel good chemistry brewing between the four of you, it’s time to invite them to the playrooms. Remember that it’s okay to keep things light. For instance, you could say, “We are heading to the playrooms – you’re welcome to join us.” Asking in this way let’s the other couple know you’re interested in playing while also avoiding applying too much pressure.