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Written by SwingersHelp.com.
We know it is not easy being a single man in the swinger lifestyle. To help you improve your odds, we will explain some helpful swinger etiquette for our single male friends. It’s important to be mindful of how your behavior can be interpreted or the extra meaning it can carry. In many ways that’s the most important tip – it’s not enough to be respectful and considerate, you have to make sure you’re communicating your respect for your partner’s (or partners’) boundaries, your attentiveness to their needs, or their appreciation of their company. Without this consideration for others at swingers’ events, you won’t get very far at all.
Consent, consent, consent
When you’re at a swingers event, it can be easy to get carried away with your own desires, but it’s absolutely vital you make sure you are getting consent from every partner, every step of the way.
Consent doesn’t mean asking “Would you like to have sex?” and then forgetting about it. Consent means asking throughout sex. “Are you enjoying that?” or “Can I try this thing?” or “Would you like me to do something differently?” are all really important things to say during group sex (or any sex, for that matter).
While consent is crucial, don’t let it become a need for affirmation. Be sensitive to your partner’s non-verbal cues as to whether or not she’s enjoying something, as checking constantly can be a bit of a mood killer. You are a smart man so use your intelligence to assess their verbal & non-verbal signals throughout your encounter. If you’re really not sure though, you’re best asking them rather than overthinking it.
Don’t assume anything
We all have prejudices and assumptions about other people, however much we wish we were also nonjudgmental. We might assume that two women sitting together are single friends, rather than a married couple, we might assume that other swinging couples are into having full sex with other couples, or that all women enjoy oral sex. Try to drop these assumptions and be open to different possibilities.
A little like the note on consent above, you need to communicate and listen to everyone, and not jump into anything assuming you know what others are like or what they need. Even if you have swinger experience, that doesn’t mean your past swinger partners will have the same desires or personal boundaries as your new swinger partners. Be wise enough to realize we are all different and its best not to assume anything. Keeping an open mind can lead to the biggest smiles.
Remember your usual manners
First and foremost, if it isn’t how you would act on a date with a man or woman you really want to impress, don’t do it at a swingers’ event. This means remembering basic things such as not staring at others (and maintaining eye contact, not letting your gaze ‘slip’…), not intruding on other people’s space, and saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.
On that note, don’t assume that derogatory language is automatically a turn-on just because it might be for you or has been well received in your past relationships. Keep your patter ‘neutral’ until you have a chance to get to know what makes your partner or partners tick.
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Source: https://swingershelp.com/swinger-etiquette-for-single-males/