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Your teachers probably never taught you the proper etiquette when it comes to having sexy time with another person’s partner. We don’t know why they skipped this very important lesson in life, but it’s time we rectified that mistake. Here are some tried-and-true etiquette lessons to help you minimize your embarrassment and increase your fun.
When meeting fresh faces…
Engage both people when meeting a couple. You want to show that you respect both of them, no matter what naughty thing is running through your mind about one of them. Showing respect now, is your way of showing that you can be trusted to respect their rules and boundaries later on in the bedroom. If you are at a swinger-only event, you can greet with a cozy hug and a light kiss. In more vanilla settings, you’ll probably want to stick to handshakes.
How to approach a new couple…
Usually, swingers will have the ladies approach each other to start the conversation. Yes, guys can make the first contact – just remember to engage the man as well as the lady. Too many guys think they are in a bar trying to pick up single women, and that attitude just doesn’t work in the lifestyle. Be very careful that you don’t accidentally come across as an aggressive male, unless you like rejection and getting kicked out.
Be polite and show respect to both people in the couple. Compliment them on something and then ask them an open-ended question. If they are in a group talking with others, wait for a lull in the conversation. Apologize for interrupting and ask if it is a private conversation or if you can join. Then quickly compliment them. Everyone loves compliments, so give freely!
When attending a free party…
Bring a present for your hosts and make sure to seek them out when first arriving. It takes a lot of work to arrange a party, so be thoughtful and bring them a bottle of wine or sexy lube along with your own booze (if it is a BYOB party). It’s hard to say which gift they’d like best, but they’ll appreciate the thought behind the gesture!
When attending a paid party…
Do your best to avoid last minute no-shows. Swinger events often sell out and being a no-show prevents another couple from being able to attend. Be a respectful attendee. Make sure to tip the servers. There are many costs involved in running a swinger party. Organizers usually do this as a service for the community, since the profit margins are often razor thin. Don’t ruin a good thing: be respectful of the venue and the organizers.
When getting a hotel room…
Wait as long as you can before booking a hotel room since swingers can be flaky and cancel at the last minute. Expect to pay for the room yourself. It is polite for the other people to offer to split expenses, but often they are so excited about sexy time that they forget. If you are the other couple, make sure to contribute towards the room. If your play partners won’t take money then bring some snacks and drinks to share.
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“Swinging Lifestyle Etiquette.” Swingers Help, swingershelp.com/lifestyle-etiquette/.