In honor of International Women’s Day coming up this Friday, we are giving you sex tips on how to please the ladies. Unfortunately, most women don’t orgasm from penetration. Perfecting the art of fingering a woman can lead her to an orgasm and keep her coming back! While working with your fingers may seem pretty straight forward, many make basic mistakes. With that being said, here are some Do’s and Don’ts of fingering a woman. You’re welcome!
Do’s
Understand the anatomy
We all know what and where the vagina is, but do you REALLY understand all the little parts of a vagina? The vulva is made up of the pubic mound, inner labia, outer labia, clitoris, vaginal opening, and the perineum (which is located just beneath the vaginal opening). All of these areas are responsive to touch and should be included in the action.
Work from the outside in
Start off by tracing your fingers up her thigh and around her vulva. Next, explore her lips while applying a gentle pressure over her clitoris without touching it directly. Massage her vulva very gently and build up the speed and pressure over a period of about 15 minutes. By doing this, you are encouraging blood flow to her lady parts and making her more receptive to intense clitoral stimulation.
Listen to your partner
She will tell you when to increase pressure and intensity one way or another. If she doesn’t say it verbally, listen for her body’s signals. She may slightly shift her body to adjust your position, her breathing might get faster, and her body may tense up.
Cut your nails
Are your nails long, rigid, and dirty? If so, keep those babies to yourself! Your long nails are the equivalent to a woman who doesn’t know how to keep her teeth out of the way during oral sex. No bueno!
Don’ts
Start with the clitoris
First off, the clitoris is at the center of the vulva. Hopefully, you already knew that. The clitoris has about 8,000 nerve endings that extend deep into the pelvic area and surround the vagina. Touching this gem before she’s ready can send those 8,000 nerve endings into a painful frenzy. Get her nice and warm first! Direct clitoral contact should come last! If she doesn’t jerk or shy away when you touch it, you’re good to go!
Touch her before she’s wet
It is a must that your partner be wet before you do too much touching. It’s completely okay (and recommended) to use lube! Your partner will enjoy your touch 1000x more if everything is nice and slippery. Not to mention, touching her dry clitoris directly might get you kneed in the crotch!
Rush through it
When it comes to fingering a woman, think marathon, not sprint! Slow and steady will surly win this race! Her vulva loves slow, sensual stimulation. You want to make sure the vulva becomes plumper and her clitoris becomes hard – and yes, women can get hard too!
Happy Swinging!